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An Anti-“MomBlog”

A wise woman builds her home but a foolish one tears it down with her own hands. – Proverbs 14:1

To the Messy Men that I love oh-so-much,

I’m going to go against the grain here. It seems as though the internet wants to get on these here blogs and talk about how awful you all are or how tired I should be… well, I’m not drinking that Kool-Aid. I think you’re awesome. Every single messy, sloppy & forgetful thing about you is awesome. Maybe its not awesome in the conventional way – but it’s awesome in the way that you are mine…. and that’s what this is really all about.

There are a lot of blogs/articles/facebook statuses going around saying things like “Stay-at-home-mom depression is REAL” and “My husband doesn’t appreciate all I do all day” and “I just need a vacation because being a mom/nurse/cook/housekeeper/taxi driver/blah/blah/blah is hard.” Don’t you listen to them, needy men of mine. Don’t you listen one bit. Let me tell you something about all these people saying all these things… they must not realize how incredible it is to be a mommy & wife.

3388e2d107d7e4ec4474f50a06281e49Awesome?! Noooo…. its SO hard.

Damn right it’s hard. It should be! Being your mom & wife is literally the most important job I will ever and have ever had…. therefore it SHOULD be hard. The important stuff is never easy. It can’t be. It matters too much.

Now now – don’t let me confuse you – I still would appreciate you cleaning up after yourselves & making sure you always use your manners. Those are basic principles that no man should ever forget. And I promise that I WILL let you know when I’m upset with you. But I can also promise you that I won’t resent you for not being a model citizen every single moment of your life – because I’m not either.

The problem I am having with these blogs these days is that it’s giving us moms/wives the wrong sense of entitlement. Don’t get me wrong – we DO do a lot. We DO deserve to be respected and treated fairly. But we don’t deserve the right to write an open letter to our husbands about how they don’t do enough. THEY deserve a private conversation & our marriage deserves discretion. We don’t deserve the right to act like we resent the busy job of being a mom. Being a mother is a PRIVILEGE denied to so, so many.  I take my job as your wife & mommy very seriously. I want to show you a shining example of what goodness, patience & stewardship look like. I want you to understand why I deserve respect – not that I’m entitled to it, as goes for all of you.  I want you to always know that even when I’m mad, I love you all more than words or any blog will ever be able to express.

So, My wish for you 3 wonderful fellas is this:

To my husband –

You work so hard for our family. I DO get frustrated when I feel like my”work” days never end and I know I express that to you – but please don’t mistake my frustration as me diminishing what YOU do. You are an integral part of why our family works and I appreciate you. Thank you for working outside of our home, away from your boys, so that I may stay here in the chaotic 20863790_10159053768790234_486720569_nparadise I call home and watch them grow and be present for every moment. You may not always put your socks in the hamper or wash your plate after dinner – but you do your best for our family and I’m blessed that you’re mine. We’re a team – the best team. I love you.

 

To my two sweet, adventurous, busy boys – You light my life. You’re messy – I’m a clean20864243_10159053756965234_1428800123_n freak. You’re EVERYwhere – I’m structured. You’re unpredictable – I’m 2 steps ahead. You’re happiness – I’m grateful. My job as your mommy is to embrace all the things that 20839550_10159053757055234_1316794966_nwill soon disappear with adulthood and teach you how to manage them responsibly. I do NOT want to get away from you. I do NOT suffer from a depression from being at home with you. I do NOT resent you. I AM tired. All that means is that you both keep me so busy being your mommy. Thank you for teaching me selfless love & inspiring me to be the best person I can be. You have given me purpose. Thank you. I love you. Love, Me.

 

****Ladies – please be aware that every time we complain about “all the things we do”, we diminish the importance of our role. Every single living human being on this planet came to be from a mother. You’re job as a mom isn’t easy because it shouldn’t be. It’s the most important job there is (I already said that but I’ll say it again.) And you’re job as a wife is your CHOICE. And if you’re only means of communicating your grievances to your husband is passive aggressively sharing a blog on Facebook, you must not want change all that bad (because I can guarantee your husband won’t read that blog & have some kind of epiphany.) Marriage takes work. Momming takes work.  It’s all work. There are so many women (some who may be reading this) who desperately want to find a husband or maybe have lost one and who want nothing more than to be a mom -or- are having to do it on their own. If we are lucky enough to be in the elite club of wives & mothers, lets quit looking to the internet for validation and a pat on the back for things that we should do graciously & humbly. We know we’re awesome. We know what we do. We know we matter.

And that’s all that matters.

XOXO,

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Bright & Shiny

Well well well – lookie who’s back?!  Thats right… it’s ME. I wanted to be the first to say WELCOME to my bright and shiny, brand new blog. My old one will still be around, but creatively, personally & aesthetically, I have grown and evolved hence the new-ness.

Its been quite a while since I’ve written a serious blog so I have decided to dedicate this, my first official post, to letting you all know what I’ve been up to. I think that will help you understand where we will be going.

The last time I wrote, we were Boggs Party of Three… and obviously we have added one 19059100_10155734689814905_3304148316434885344_nwonderful little boy to that mix. Around the time of my last blog, we had just lost a pregnancy to miscarriage. After that, I toyed around with coming back to write just to let you know how my brain operated after than loss and then even more when I found out I was pregnant (again) with Bennett. It wasn’t pretty – and if you DO want to hear that, let me know. Anyways, that was that.

After we had Bennett, I feel like we started a new chapter in our life. My oldest started Kindergarten (he’ll be staring First grade TOMORROW – whoa.). I love being a school-aged mom. The school activities I am blessed enough to attend just make me so happy. All the annoying PTA notices and constant needs of the school don’t bother me like they probably should… I even draw on my sons napkins because WHY THE HECK NOT?! At the school, I’ve been deemed the Pinterest mom… and I think I’m ok with that for now. We’ll see how this school year goes lol

Nate and I also took a step back from the business we had fallen so madly in love with – Advocare. We had suffered such a loss with the miscarriage and then a head spinning fear with our pregnancy with Bennett that we knew our focus needed to be on our family. Sidenote: I think that that is important to re-iterate. I feel like when families go through tragedy, the instinct is to unplug and dive into “work”… work is non-emotional and has nothing to do with the loss and fear. But I think what ends up happening is that you never heal WITH you family and it could cause a rift that will be so very hard to repair.  I am grateful for my husbands patience with me through this time. Bennett just turned 9 months old – and we have decided that we are ready to re-introduce ourselves to Advocare business. Slowly but surely… because we honestly do love the products.

Another exciting thing that happened is we opened an Etsy store bound to make us the next Chip & Joanna. I get to work along side of my husband on creative, passion projects. You will be seeing plenty of blogs about that one – trust me. 🙂

Finally – I have discovered in myself a strength that could only be divinely given to a mother who has to mourn, love, survive, organize, plan, nurture & surrender, all at once. I look in the mirror today and see a different woman than last year. I am more proud of who I am than I ever have been before. It may be that I’m in my thirties – but the conviction I have within myself is so relieving. As someone who spent a better part of her youth and early twenties insecure & self-doubting, I can finally say that I am who I say I am. I am so beyond grateful for the grace that God has given me. There isn’t fear anymore about where we are or where we’re going – God has already been there, I just need to catch up.

I’m so excited about this new journey in blogging, creating & sharing with you all.

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